How Do I Deal With a Negative Coworker?

If you're working full-time, onsite, that means 8+ hours spent with your coworkers. That's a pretty big chunk of your day. So is it any wonder that workplace dynamics (and drama) affect your mental and emotional state, even hours after you've gone home?

That's why positivity must infuse a workplace. Not only does it affect productivity, but it plays a significant factor in workplace culture. Of course, it doesn't mean everyone must be a Pollyanna, but rather that people embrace the truth that challenges ignite growth.

A positive workplace is full of people who adapt well under pressure, enjoy their colleagues (mostly), and excel in the face of change and new things.

But you know all of this. You thrive in this type of environment.

You also know what it's like to work with Negative Nelly, Gloomy Gus, and Complaining Carrie. And while you like to think of yourself as a compassionate person — it's quite draining to listen to them all day. The worst part is that sooner or later, you find yourself catching the negativity bug, too. So, how do you deal with Negative Nelly?

Hear Them Out

If it doesn't interfere with work and productivity, offer an empathetic ear for a couple of minutes. You don't need to justify sour complaining, but remember that their negativity might be a mask covering up a lot of pain you don't see. Try seeing things from their perspective. Perhaps their workplace pessimism is realism in disguise, and they might have a good point - or two.

Change the Subject

Sometimes, it is helpful to redirect the conversation toward something more pleasant –

gently. For example, you can tactfully find the "positives within the negatives" and spin things. Another way to redirect them is by giving them a job or task, distracting them from their negative thought cycle.

Remain Professional

Casual familiarity is good for building friendly and healthy workplace relationships. However, too much 'understanding' lends Negative Nelly a helping hand. Choose the higher road of professionalism and refuse to participate or personally engage in negative conversations — especially office gossip.

Point Them in the Right Direction

Sometimes people complain because they don't know how to ask for help — offer guidance by offering to help if you can. That way, you're taking on the role of a problem solver instead of a sounding board for complainers. Of course, you can also punt and send them to HR or a supervisor.

Keep Your Distance

You don't need or want to ignore Negative Nelly, but you don't have to be best friends. Keep your distance as much as possible. Take the opportunity to work in your own space or take your breaks at a different time. Let them know that you have a lot of work on your plate and don't have time to chat just then.

Set Boundaries

Don't be afraid to set clear boundaries. If you're dealing with chronic negativity from a coworker, you may need to tell them that their dismal perspective limits your productivity. Tell them that you would like to only discuss work matters with them. It might be challenging, but you can do it politely and firmly!

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